Sure you do. [ But that was a fight for another day. Telling people that it's okay to tell other people to shove their advice and to trust themselves seems counter-productive at the moment. ]

All right, look. It doesn't matter if you wanna do it for you or if you wanna do it for her - because you are allowed to do things for you. But - if it gets too much - let her choose. Tell her you've done stuff you regret, and that you're trying to make up for it, but if she wants to know, you'll tell her. And if she doesn't want to know, you won't. [ Her manner becomes a little more tense; firmer. ] But if she does, and you do, you tell her all of it. You don't leave out anythin' that will make you look better or worse. You're fair about it. And that means the whole thing.